ARCHIVED POST: The four faces of F.E.A.R

I’ve talked plenty about fear in the past; the good, the bad and all that comes in between.

[Archived post from an old blog, originally published on June 19th, 2013.]

F.E.A.RYet the more I think about it, the only thing that really matters is how to deal with it.

Fear exists. It will always exist as long as there are atoms in the universe.

There’s little we can do to change that, but there is something we can do to change the way we think about the things we fear and what we do about them.

Like what?

Well, like:

F.E.A.R – Fuck Everything And Run

Just run away. This person/place/thing is just far too scary and I can’t deal with it, and even if I could, it is far too big/powerful/legitimately dangerous to overcome, ergo the safest option is to fuck everything and run.

F.E.A.R – Fight Everything And Rebel

I don’t like this. Things are changing and that change threatens my personal safety/interests/beliefs. The thing I fear the most may manifest itself in my life and I will not stand for it. So I will fight everything and I will rebel and I will stand my ground.

F.E.A.R – Face Everything And Recover

Pretty much the opposite of the above.
I do like things the way they are. This is not a good way to live my life and things need to change. Change is still very scary though, so I simply need to face it, embrace it and make the changes necessary to recover from whatever situation I’m in as I journey on to something better.

F.E.A.R – Forgive Everyone And RELAX

Most people, places and things are not out to deliberately cause me harm. In fact, as they go about doing whatever it is they’re doing, they’re not thinking about me at all.

If they do happen to do something which harms or threatens me, it has nothing to do with me at all, and certainly nothing to do with any need for malice.

So, knowing most people, places and things are not out to get me means there’s far less to be scared of. If they do harm me, they didn’t mean to. I can forgive them, and relax.